Thursday, May 21, 2009

Do You Ever Feel Like a Bad Mom?

I did yesterday. Yesterday my mom came over to help me in my yard (yes, again...she's the best!). I couldn't help that much because I'm still a little uncomfortable from the fall and I think that might have put me in a crabby mood.

While we were working, the kids were playing. Now, let me say that Jamison calls my name 1000 times a day. Her dad could be right next to her and I could be in another room and she calls ME (of course, in the big picture this is a blessing to me because it shows how she relies on me). Anyways, I'm trying to help my mom the best I can, hoping the kids can entertain themselves for just a bit, but every other minute "MOM!" Over and over she calls my name, to tell me this or that...nothing Earth shattering. So, finally I call her over because I'm about to explode and I ask her why she feels the need to call me all the time. She says..."because I love you." Feeling SO bad, all I could say was "well then I'll be happy to keep answering you."

Am I the only one who has had a moment like this?


Ms. Tee said...

You're definitely not the only one! Everybody gets grumpy every now and then, even moms. I think it was so sweet how you answered her, too. :)

Kelli said...

I think that kind of thing happens to every mom!!

Joanna said...

That happens a lot here. More then I care to admit. I feel like a bad mom about once a week. The kids argue...and my nerves are shot and so I get aggravated. I don't reply as sweet as you did though.

It encourages me to think that way!

Carrie said...

you are not alone Noah says Maaaamaaa a thousand times a day. Sometimes I just want to scream. Don't feel bad

Carrie said...

LOL! I don't think I'm quite as sweet either! I usually respond back by the 100th time....WHAAAAAT!!! "Oh, nothing" the response I get, because now I've scared them...then I feel terrible...gulp!

Trust me...they will not remember those little moments as much as the moments we truly shower them with hugs & kisses! Those outweigh the crabby attitudes...and I always tell them it's not their fault I'm grumpy and it's ok to be grumpy sometimes! Whew..I think I feel better anyway...ha ha! You're awesome!

Ally said...

At least once a day. Seriously. There's always something as a mom to make me feel guilty, and in the moments like you had yesterday I usually don't respond so nicely either.
I've had my fair share of moments where I've said or responded in a way that I feel badly about.

It's so hard to balance everything.

jenjen said...

That happens to me too. I just get used to my kids needing something all the time, that when they just want to say something sweet, it makes me feel so bad.

You are a great mom Kelli! I hope your back is feeling better!


Vivienne said...

Absolutely you're the only one! I have never heard of anything like this before. I'm shocked, and you should be reported to CPS.

Oy! Of course you're not the only one. I think a valuable lesson for kids to learn that their parents are people too. I screw things up allllll the time. Every once in a while I have the guts to tell my kids, "I am really crabby. I handled this wrong because I just took it out on you. I'm sorry."

You are also not the only one who has kids that call them over the dad every. single. time.

It's nice to be popular and all, but sheesh!

Kelli said...

Oh honey! I'm right there with you. There are moments of wanting to explode, but it's always those times when when we learn lessons from our own children. Isn't it funny how we're supposed to be the "teachers" and yet they are the ones that teach us so much in return? Gotta love 'em!

Buzzings of a Queen Bee! said...

You are NOT the only mom to feel this way. I get it from my two year old all the time, and sometimes I just explode. Then she says "I love you" and I feel terrible. Totally normal!!

jennifer said...

oh... heart wrenching.

i feel like a bad mom all the time.

you, my friend, are NOT a bad mom. just a normal one.

Christie in Dallas, TX said...

I saw your post title and thought, "oh I can relate!" The answer is YES, sometimes I feel like a bad Mom. We've all had those moments. Fortunately kids are resilient (I keep telling myself)!